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ideas and approaches that you have not what worked for them can make a big
considered and that can give you hope. difference. That is when the support
comes from inside you—many of us need
to be able to verbalise our ideas to an
External – For many, empathy is all we external source, and sometimes it helps to
need to feel more at ease and to be more
compassionate and kind to ourselves. have someone that is not going to give
you suggestions or opinions. Instead they
Ideas and solutions from an outside
source may be all that is needed to create will give you space and time to listen until
you have clarity and confidence in your
change or simply accept where we are
now. But for some of us, no matter how own thinking.
much we try to apply the strategies of
others we might find ourselves stuck. With this in mind, three questions I use to
Then, because their ideas and methods set myself and my clients up for success
don’t work for us, we can quickly fall back are:
into the space of “is it just me?” No
matter how many people we listen to, we What would you like to have happen?
might struggle to find “our” way.
How do you need to be for that to
happen?
That is when I highly recommend
professional help to learn how to listen to What kind of resource or support might
yourself. You know more than you think. you need for you to be like that?
And we often need external help to
physically hear ourselves think. Working
with someone that is skilled at helping you
understand yourself as opposed to sharing

Sheryl Andrews Certified Clean Language facilitator, coach and author of

Manage Your Critic – From Overwhelm to clarity in 7 steps. She is known by

many for her big heart and generous nature, but few knew of the self-doubt

and tears that happened behind closed doors as she navigated divorce,
bereavement and setting up her own business. Her book shares her story
and how she overcame sensitivity to criticism. Today Sheryl spends much of
her time supporting others to gain clarity of what they want and sharing
practical ways to develop and sustain confidence in the face of change.

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